The process of developing and projecting confidence when we're learning or try something for the first time is scary for everyone, and each person handles these situations differently. Sadly, most people respond by avoiding new situations all together!
Their fear prevents them from new experiences and trying things they might otherwise really enjoy and become great at some day.
Here are a few ideas to help you remember that you probably already have what it takes when it comes to trying something new.
1. The 3-Legged Stool
Confidence comes when you can be as comfortable as possible. Think of it like sitting on a stool. A one-legged stool is very unstable (and very uncomfortable!); a two-legged stool is still pretty shaky; a three-legged stool lets you rest comfortably without fear of falling.
Likewise, when you are trying something new, think of 3 reasons why you are qualified to do it. Have you done something similar in the past? Have you been training or preparing for it? Do others support you? Think outside the box and find your legs.
2. Write it Down
Our minds work overtime when we are nervous about something new. We create and tend to play out “negative fantasies” about what could possibly go wrong. How silly is that? But we all do it! The best thing to do is to write down your plan—what you will do and what will go right. If you need to, go ahead and write down what could go wrong if there's a real possibility of that happening and include how you will handle the situation so you are not caught off guard.
How you rehearse is up to you. Some people are comfortable with an actual dress rehearsal. They prefer to dress the part, practice what they will say word for word as if they are speaking to a group of people in the room. Others rehearse in their head, practicing what they will say and experimenting with different ways to say it in their mind before the actual meeting or event.
Even if you're not giving a presentation, you can still use visualization to imagine how the interaction will take place and what your role will be. How do you want to relate with others? What kind of impression do you want to make and how will you make it?
These are all things you can do before you trying something for the first time to make you feel more comfortable and project confidence.
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